It is not uncomm
on for people to want to date while separated or pending divorce. Many are ready to move forward with their lives. For some, it has been a long time since they have experienced intimacy with another. They may socialize in a group and meet someone, or feel the desire to post on an online dating site. While it may be tempting to begin dating or form a new partner relationship, it can lead to added stress and more complex problems to be solved.
While others who are separated seem to be freely dating, consider being cautious. There may be criminal laws regarding adultery. In addition, some statutes have a civil ground of adultery for divorce. Regardless, when there is a third party who is romantically involved, it can make it more difficult, and thus more expensive, to reach a settlement.
Sometimes, if one party is involved with another person, it can lead to blame toward that party and a belief that the other party should be compensated accordingly through more financial support or a larger share of the assets distribution. The morals of the spouse and their parenting abilities and discretion may come into question.
Divorce is stressful. It usually takes time to reach a resolution, even through negotiation, leaving little time remaining after employment and household responsibilities are met. It is important to allow time to care for oneself and the children (if applicable).
Also, it is wise to process what happened during the past relationship that led to a separation and to heal from the emotional stages of divorce before getting involved with a new partner. It may be best to take some time to enjoy social outings (with friends and as a group), while allowing time to do those things that may be a source of physical and/or emotional strength (individual counseling, exercise, healthy eating, sleep, mediation, and spiritual practice).